Tuesday, May 14, 2013

Boundaires

   We can bring out the best in people or the worst. Are we provoking them to anger, or are we encouraging them to joy. When we have healthy boundaries and treat people with respect we bring out the best in them.
     On the other hand when we don't recognize healthy boundaries we provoke others to anger. The reason for this is because the other person feels they need to set up tougher boundaries for us to get the hint. When their sublet hints are not received, frustration builds and they become angry. The anger is an attempt to set up a clear and firm boundary.
     If we begin to see a pattern in our life where people seem to always be lashing out at us and getting angry, we may need to do some self reflecting. Are we knowingly or unknowingly stomping on other people's personal boundaries?
     Maintaining healthy boundaries helps maintain happy relationships.

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