Your vibe attracts your tribe

       Your vibe attracts your tribe. True or false? I think it leans more toward true. I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Some people seem to find their tribe easily while others of us keep searching with no luck. This quote made me think, maybe some of us can't find our tribe because we're giving off the wrong vibe. There are many reasons we may give off the wrong vibe but I think one of the reasons, which ties into another blog I posted about communication, may be we aren't accurately expressing who we are on the inside. For some reason who we are on the inside and how we appear on the outside can get skewed.    

      This also ties into my post about shedding. We have to shed the old things, the things we've out grown. One thing we may need to shed is old communication styles. It's not vain to work on the outside. Some may feel focusing on the outside is shallow but the reality is non-verbal communication whether outward appearances, tone of voice, gestures, mannerisms and more play a huge role in what we're communicating and putting into the universe for others to read, which ties into my true colors blog post.   If it's true that our vibe attracts our tribe, then maybe those of us who keep attracting the wrong people and/or having issues finding our tribe are simply not sending out vibes that match our authentic inner selves. 

         What vibes are we sending out if we don't know and understand ourselves?  Some of us know ourselves well but we don't have words, expressions, and tools to express that on the outside. It's a mistake to think if we're not trying to give off a vibe that no vibe is being sent. People are reading and feeling us out no matter what. So if we aren't proactive about the message we're sending we are probably sending the wrong one. I see this more clearly in my own life now that I'm lookin back. 

       Every form of outward expression is sending out a message about who we are. If we aren't being direct the message will come out wrong. I think the key for those of us having issues finding our tribe is to tune in to who we are and then figure out how that would translate on the outside. When our outside message matches our inside then we attract the right people. 

      Where is our communication failing? Is it cosmetic? Sadly we all judge a book by it's cover - some more than others. Make a point to share parts of yourself though material expression like jewelry, makeup, hair etc. Show who you are in diffrent ways. The more information you share the more likely your tribe will recognize you and vice versa. Maybe our communication is failing in the area of body language. It's crazy how much people assume they know about us based on what our body does. Again, take some time to think about who you are and what you want to communicate with your body language. There is no such thing as opting out. If you choose not to be intentional then you run the risk of your outsides not matching your insides and that's when miscommunication happens. If people have to assume they will most likely assume wrong. I know this from years of experience. I'm still learning how to accurately communicate in this way. I've been learning all of this the hard way. I never gave much thought to my non-verbal communication growing up. It's only recently that I've consider that I've been communicating all the wrong things.

       So what's your vibe?  Summed up - those who find their tribe not only know who they are on the inside but know how to accurately express themselves on the outside. When the inside and outside match our vibe draws in the right people. When they don't match we send out the wrong message attracting people we don't deeply vibe with and are unrecognizable to our true tribe. 

Touch the Sky - Hillsong United

Shedding

      When we feel stuck it's often because we fear shedding our old skin. We can't take everything with us in every season of our journey. Don't be afraid to let go, to detox, to change, to shed.  Can you imagine if a snake refused to shed it's old skin? When a snake grows it's skin does not grow along with it. Our skin stretches and grows along with us throughout our lives, but snakes out grow their skin. They also never stop physically growing, so this shedding processes takes place for the snake's entire life.

     We are always growing as well. We will not continually grow physically like snakes, but we should be growing mentally, emotionally and spiritually. We need to remember that shedding is a natural process that gives way to growth. If we refuse to let go of the things we've outgrown we will never reach our full potential. If we insist on clinging to old traditions, places, people, ideas etc then we will miss opportunities to walk on the best paths for our lives.

     Sometimes snakes have trouble shedding their skin and need assistance.  The snakes that don't receive assistance for whatever reason - maybe because they are in the wild - will experience severe complications even death. One of the more common issues is blindness. Snakes don't have eye lids, but scales over their eyes, also know as "eye caps". If a snake retains multiple layers of eye caps because of a failure to shed it will go blind. The same is true for us, sometimes we need assistance. We can't see clearly when we aren't shedding.It will hinder and even kill our future.

      After a snake has successfully shed, it's colors are usually more vibrant. If we find our light is dim and our colors are fading it may be a sign we aren't allowing the shedding process to take place in our lives. Being courageous enough to walk away from things that no longer fit will prove to be one of the healthiest changes we make.